Moving house is hard work, all that organising, costs, finalising, packing and running about. You may feel like you’re at your wit’s end with all the frantic panic that occurs in the run up to a move, but how are the kids coping? Often we forget that just because young children have little involvement in the actual logistics of moving house, they are still feeling the effects of the move; be it picking up on stressful vibes in the family home, feeling confused in a home which is now filled with wrapping and cardboard boxes or perhaps there are struggling to adjust in a new home. Whatever their worries, this guide to helping kids cope with moving house is sure to help. Involve the kidsFor children, moving should be fun and exciting, so first thing is first; don’t let kids absorb any negative energy surrounding the move or the new house. They won’t be able to differentiate between stress over solicitors and stress over moving, so will initially have concerns over anything which is causing such upheaval. Remain positive and upbeat at all times, children don’t care about paperwork and accounts, instead they’re much more interested in their new room and garden, so you should be too. A great way to involve the kids is by taking regular trip with them to the new house. Invite them to view the house and let them get comfortable in their new space, exploring the rooms and garden. If it’s not possible to take many trips, take a wander round the local area, if they’re moving school go to see that and get their attention with all the good things in the new area. Involve them in packing by letting them pack their own clothes and some valuables, if they’re particularly struggling with the boxes and sense of attachment, buy them their own suitcase and let them fill it with whatever they want to take; that way they’ll feel much more in control and involved in what is going on. The new room The new room is perhaps the most exciting aspect of moving home so let them enjoy it. Whilst you’re in the process of moving keep them amused in the process by discussing colours and furniture. Once you’re in the new home let them have some freedom and independence and help them to unpack their own things, by allowing them to be in control of the situation, they’ll be much more likely to appreciate and enjoy their new space. Whilst the parents might want to get stuck into unpacking and settling into a new home, children take much longer to adjust and will feel quite alien in a new home. Spend the first day adjusting and letting children get used to their new home in their own time. Take the time out to spend time in the garden and explore the house together showing them all the rooms and involving them in decisions such as what should go where and discussing colours for rooms. Not only will it help them to settle, but they will also start to feel quite excited by being in the new house. If they’re struggling with missing the old home, take them out and enjoy the local area, concentrating on more than just the house. A visit to the park, local swimming pool or play centres will help to associate the new house with all the exciting things you can do in the new area. Often, we try to shield our children from things that they may not understand, but by taking the time out to involve your children in all aspects of moving house will help them to adjust, settle in and enjoy it quicker.
Helping kids to cope with moving house
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